Emotional Dependence - The Necessity of Trust
If all three cannot be held, then they must be relinquished in this order: first weapons, then food, then trust.
Trust, he said, must never be given up because without it "we cannot stand".
However, Italian philosopher Machiavelli disagreed.
He said that men are incapable of living up to the obligations of love and trust, because they are such "wretched" creatures.
They will break it on every occasion if it runs against their interests.
Instead of trust, fear of punishment is what will never fail you.
Trust Not An Option All evidence in, it seems that Confucius had the greater understanding.
Machiavelli's ideas have not gone without much controversy through the years.
Emotional dependence is part of life.
Without trust, we could not live.
German sociologist Niklas Luhmann said that without trust, none of us would even bother to get up in the morning.
Because of this we tend toward being trusting creatures.
We assume that no one is going to shoot us when we walk out our door and that our planes, trains, and elevators are properly cared for so they won't malfunction and kill us.
Even though these things aren't 100% certain, we don't have time to check all of them out.
That would make living impossible.
Illuminating Hope Trust is risking in a controlled sort of way and it helps us manage the uncertainty of our life.
It helps us move forward in hope and confidence by illuminating possibilities that we would not even think about otherwise.
Just Because They Say It We need trust to face the unknown.
Since we can't know everything, much of our decisions are based on strong and even blind trust in what others tell us.
Consequently, emotional dependence forms much of our world view.
Our understanding of life is based on trust.
Altruistic or Egotistic? With the very real threat that others may be gaining our trust to take advantage of us, why do we still trust? Without trust we could never get people to cooperate with us or to interact.
So trusting isn't entirely altruistic.
Sometimes our trusting is a bit egocentric.
A Better World Trust fits hand in glove with teamwork and admiration and, in time, builds a better world.
Thus created, it is both powerful and enduring.
Trust breeds trust, and those who do enjoy better relationships.
They are less irritated, aggressive, and bitter.
They are also better able to forgive a betrayal of trust.
The Only Thing That Works Trust, like love, builds up instead of tears down.
Emotional dependence builds relationships and civilizations and avoids strife and war.
Distrust launches fear and destroys itself.
Trust, like love, seems weak but it is the only thing that works.
It is its own defense.